The Update
1:19 PM
I appreciate everyone who reached out and left me a nice
note about my breastfeeding struggles. It’s funny because so many people said
they went through the same thing, or they understand because it was hard for
them, but why does no one ever talk about how hard it is? I knew having a baby
and raising a newborn would be a struggle, but I never thought it would be this
hard.
Social media makes everyone look like they have it all
together. The bad – screaming, gas, breastfeeding issues, poop (got pooped on
for the first time over the weekend!), late nights… it’s never discussed unless
it’s in a close-knit mommy group where you feel like you can be open and
honest. Well here I am being open and honest – it sucks!
I feel sometimes like my kid never sleeps and why is she
crying even after I have changed her and fed her? All the classes and books say
you’ll figure out their cries – I still have no idea. Is it too early to figure
them out? Why does she not sleep when her eyes are heavy, rolling back in her head?
It’s like she has toothpicks in her eye lids to hold them open and will fight
it so much. And then when you Google or read online other mommies had their
babies sleeping at 5 or 6 weeks? OMG that makes me want to cry.
BUT, I know I am the one putting the stress and pressure on
myself. I recognize it. I am the one striving to be the best mom and it’s
tough. I can see why people wear and break down. I need to learn how to let go
and relax a little.
And, it all hasn’t been bad. We have had some successes and
some products that have made life easier. (I will blog about those at a later
time.) I love my girl to death. She is adorable and looks just like her dad. I
think she has his personality – oh lordy! I can’t wait to dress her up, take
her out and be my mini me. That’s why you have kids right?
Again, thanks for all the positive feedback. It’s nice to
know other people struggled and made it through.
For those that went back to work… I’d love to know how the
transition went and what I can do to make it go smooth.
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I have a rule as a mom to a new mom or mom to be: NEVER give advice, what worked for me, etc, unless expressly asked. I guess other moms who are in your circle feel the same way. I certainly didn't and don't want to discourage anyone in anyway. Like I didn't want to yell at you during your baby shower as you opened my nursing cover gift, " Be prepared to take that back!!! It is REAL hard to Breastfeed!!! " You rightly would have been pissed or discouraged. Plus, there's no way of knowing what kind of a baby you have until you have them. Some babies are amazing from day one. Like Caden. Some babies require a little more work but eventually click into a schedule. Some just suck at sleeping. Like Paige. Knowing how smart your girl is, I'm thinking she will click into place but at her own time. You are a wonderful momma with great instincts. Trust yourself.
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I talked about how much it sucked 😂
ReplyDeleteI am with Summer. No one says a thing, until you ask. I can tell you I got a ton of unwanted advice and it made me feel even worse! LBJ wouldn't latch so I turned to exclusively pumping. I became a zombie, a pumping zombie. I regret it. I pumped religiously for 8 weeks every two hours. That is time I should have spent with my son. Time I won't get back. I regret it, but I can't take it back. You will find a balance! Keep up the great work!
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